5 Love Lessons from Love is Blind
Reality TV may not be all real, but there are real lessons to learn!
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If you are like me and love escaping with some trash TV, you’ve been glued to this season of Love is Blind! While we know these shows are edited and not completely real, there is still a ton we can learn and apply to our own dating and relationship experiences. Especially once the conversations go beyond “what’s your favorite color?” and “we must be a match since our grandmothers have the same name!” Here are a few of my takeaways based on the most recent season. (Beware: spoilers!)
Values alignment is crucial. Marisa and Ramses were having a great time in the pods and in Mexico! Vibes on vibes. Energy matching. But when the conversations got real, they uncovered some realities and differences in values. Marisa is a proud veteran and Ramses has moral reasons for not supporting the military. It was definitely a point of contention. Whether it’s your perspectives on war, your feelings about family, or another deeply held conviction, alignment is important for long-lasting relationships.
Attraction is still important. Yes, you can connect deeply with someone as a human. And even develop strong feelings! (Who am I to say that isn’t love?!) And maybe they aren’t your typical “type.” (We see that with our faves, Lauren and Cam, from season 1) But with only a week of connection under your belt and you have the ‘ick,’ then it’s probably a no for you, dawg. It may be with pausing and reflecting, but as we saw with Brittany and Leo, it was not meant to be.
Be you, all of you, boo. Honesty is crucial! Better to be rejected for being your full self with all of your flaws and realities in your life than loved for a facade. I’m looking at you, Tyler!!! My guy. So far it’s worked, but not without a lot of emotional harm to Ashley. I can imagine if he had been honest from the beginning that they still may have ended up together without the baggage of his version of the truth about his children. (Do we think they will still be together at the reunion?!”) All that to say: keep being you.
Communicate clearly, but kindly. Y’all. Hannah. It’s clear she is accomplished. She takes care of herself and holds it down at home for herself. That’s a great thing! But making Nick feel bad (even though the man had some growing up to do!) wasn’t a kind way to be a partner! This doesn’t mean everything is bliss. Sometimes you have to have tough conversations. But clear and kind communication (thanks Brene Brown!) and collaboration are key if you are meant to be.
Love takes time. Love isn’t just a feeling. It’s also an action. And it takes time to evolve, unfold, and develop. I’d love to see what would happen if we flipped the script and let them go to the altar a year later. After all four seasons, navigating holidays, birthdays, workloads, and more. But accelerated timelines and drama make for amazing TV, so we will just have to take our time in real life.