6 Ways to Stay Sane During the Holidays While Single
Because someone, or something, is always reminding you of your solo status this time of year!
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‘Tis the season! Soon, the season will be in full swing. Calendars filled with holiday parties. Cups filled with coquito. Cute pics in matching pajamas…oh wait. Not if you’re single as a pringle! Don’t fret! This guide will show you how to stay sane and even be happy at Christmas as a single woman.
How to Be Happy at Christmas as a Single Woman
Even if you are happy and thriving in your life, the holidays, and perhaps the hopes you had for them, can bring out all kinds of feels. So what’s the strategy when you are sans a plus one? Here are 6 things you can do to stay sane through the holiday season.
Embrace being single at Christmas by placing yourself at the top of your list!
Gifts aren’t just for the others on your list. Treat yo’ self! After all, you are worthy to be celebrated. No matching PJs on deck this year? Indulge in a luxurious pair just for you. Satin? (paid link) Feathers? Cashmere? Pick something that you can feel fabulous in relaxing on the couch on a Friday night. After all, you don't have to share the remote with anyone and can watch what you please. PJs not your thing? Maybe it’s the fancy bath salts (paid link) or the nice bottle of whiskey. And who says gifts have to be things? Treating yourself could also be getting a massage, taking yourself out to a decadent meal, or booking a winter getaway. Do you, boo!
Simplify, simplify, simplify
Working. Errands. Parties. And now gift shopping? What can you do to automate or simplify things in your life? Do you order the same protein powder (paid link) from Amazon every month? Girl, get that on Subscribe & Save and let it show up to your door without thought! Have to pick up toilet paper from Target? Take your list and see what gifts you can also grab while you’re there. Better yet - order online! Typically, anything over $35 comes with free shipping. So that not only saves you precious time, but also from draining that gas tank. And with gas prices these days…winning! Overwhelmed with laundry or cleaning? If you can afford it - outsource! Because your sanity is priceless. Also, a number of services offer a first time user deal, so it’s a great time to explore.
Take a break
Sometimes all you need is 5. Take a time out. Breathe. Say a word of gratitude. Lay on the earth and ground yourself. Personally, I’m a fan of the 5 minute meditations on the Peloton app. I’m a Chelsea Jackson Roberts fan (IYKYK). Something about her soothing voice will have me relaxed, grateful, and feeling courageous in a matter of minutes. And in the hustle and bustle of the season, connecting back to myself is restorative.
Write out all those feelings about being single at Christmas
Writing has always been my favorite strategy for getting things out. Whether that is releasing negative feelings or frustrations or documenting my next big idea. Consider putting things on paper to gain perspective. So often we think we have to wait for the beginning of the year to start fresh, but why wish the year away? There’s still life to be lived, even in this season, so grab a cute journal (paid link), reflect on right now, and rewrite those intrusive thoughts with some positive affirmations. Because you don’t need to be bound to who you used to be.
Just say no!
The most powerful way to stay sane is to just say no. Certain movies make you down in the dumps about being single at Christmas? You know you don’t have to watch them, right? Family members commenting on your relationship status, job, weight, or anything else you aren’t comfortable with? Tell them to pump the breaks and stop the conversation. Sometimes you might even have to say no to the good things, girlfriend. That party you were excited about? If you can’t even keep your eyes open, listen to your body, say no, and rest. When the holiday season is giving “team too much,” your no is your most powerful asset.
Focus on what matters most
At the end of the day, this season is supposed to be about celebration, quality time, joy, and most of all, love. And while you may not have a boo to sip hot chocolate with by the fire this year, you can still do all those things and find your happiness at Christmas.
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