How to Stop Fearing the Unknown
How to Stop Fearing the Unknown
Check yourself before you wreck yourself! Choose thoughts that align with your desires, not your fears.
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I used to have a fear of the unknown. Because of this fear, I had an internal dialogue that ran through my mind on a loop, much like a Hot 97 mixtape. (Straight from the boombox tape recorder, yo.) I talked myself into applying for and accepting jobs that I didn’t want because the little voice inside my head convinced me that I had no other choice. I ignored red flags and relationship dealbreakers because I was afraid of being single. I did it over and over again, replaying these limiting thoughts on a loop. And, since “I got no patience, and I hate waiting,” (thanks Jay-Z) I “put the needle on the record” (circa: M/A/R/R/S) to speed up my desired outcome.
If you’re tracking with me and this is resonating, keep reading to learn how to stop fearing the unknown.
First, you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Admit that you’re afraid of what’s to come and that you feel uncertain about the future. Honesty is the best policy here. Once you become self-aware you are much more conscious of your thoughts. You can decide to stop thinking negatively and choose thoughts that align with your desires.
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Here’s a checklist to identify if you’re moving through life with a fear of the unknown:
You’re obsessed with figuring out what will happen next.
You calculate your every move and decision, sometimes even mapping out the next steps on a poster board.
You brainstorm various scenarios to calculate your next move.
You rehearse conversations in your mind and constantly go over the various outcomes.
You're obsessed with watching tarot readings. You watch tarot and astrology channels often to learn what will happen next or what to prepare for due to planetary shifts.
You seek answers from the Bible, flipping and stopping at pages to get a sign.
You constantly watch preachings hoping God speaks to you and tells you what to do.
You try to control outcomes by pushing people for answers and pushing people to act.
If this resonates, you’re in danger, girl! It’s time to evolve from a fear-based thinking and into intuitive decision-making.
How to Stop Fearing the Unknown
Don’t allow your fears to become your reality. Challenge them instead! Ask yourself, is this really a fear or am I just triggered? Another great question, especially if you are afraid to take risks due to the unknown is, “What’s the worst that can happen?” If that outcome scares you, find ways to regulate your emotional response with EFT tapping and breathwork.
Take it one day at a time! Instead of shaking your fear off like a Taylor Swift song, take baby steps. Pinpoint your fears day by day and conquer them one by one. You don’t have to be perfect! Unlearning a fear-based mindset is a marathon, not a race.
Journal. It’s a simple practice but writing down your thoughts on why you fear the unknown will help you uncover core issues. The Magic of Mindset journal (paid link) is super helpful as it guides you to get unstuck to shift your mindset. You can also check out Claim It Queen: A 22-Day Self Love and Self Confidence Journal (paid link), by yours truly!
Affirm away the fear. Manifestation and the law of assumption teaches that we can create our dream life with our thoughts - and I believe that is true! The more you feed into your fearful, lack-based thoughts the more you focus on what you are afraid of and what you lack. Instead, affirm your fear away.
Some examples of affirmations you can use are: “I am not afraid of anything,” “I am safe,” and “My future is secure.”
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Choose whatever affirmation feels right to you and repeat it daily on a loop in your mind. Eventually, your subconscious mind will become reprogrammed with your new, positive thoughts and you will feel less and less afraid. In fact, you’ll feel fearless, safe, and secure.
Pull an Oracle card. Oracle cards won’t predict what will happen next so they are a lot less addictive than tarot readings. They are a great tool to use to connect with your intuition and tap into your subconscious. I recommend the Moonology Oracle cards (paid link) and The Spirit Animal Oracle (paid link) cards.
Speak to God. It may seem like an oxymoron to suggest Oracle cards and prayer, but I believe you can do both. As I said previously, Oracle cards are a tool to tap into your intuition when you feel blocked. Speaking to God is another vehicle.
In the past, I struggled with believing you can use both strategies, mostly because Western Christianity teaches that divination tools are a sin. However, as a Latina of African and indigenous descent, I can’t help but wonder what my beliefs would be today if my ancestors weren’t colonized. With colonization came forced Christianity. So, as much as I believe in God (a higher power), I also believe there are other ways to heal and worship. Luckily, times are changing and there are some pastors, like D. Danyelle Thomas, who challenge outdated and complex religious ideologies.
Seek support. You can go to a therapist and/or speak to a friend to ease your fears. Remember that you do not have to do this alone.
Read great books. My Friend Fear (paid link) is not only aesthetically pleasing, but it’s also an excellent source to help you move past the fear of the unknown. The book holds a mix of personal reflections and asks readers insightful questions to reflect on fear.
As for me, I now know how to remain in the present moment. I make decisions that align with my authentic self and my desires. I am in a great place emotionally and mentally thanks to learning about the law of assumption and journaling. That’s the last tip I’ll throw at you: find a hobby or passion that keeps you in the now. Pour your energy into it and watch your life transform. Trust me when I say (and Sheryl Crow sings) that “a change will do you good.”
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