6 Reasons You're Always Stuck in the Friend Zone
Never get stuck on the corner of Friend Zone Lane and Never Get the Guy again.
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At 13 years old, I was always stuck in the Friend Zone. With a metal mouth and glasses that were way too big for my face, who could blame a guy? Eventually, I transitioned past the Awkward Stage and flourished into an “Alien Superstar” (whip! whip!) As Queen Bey sings, I am now “too sexy for this world.”
Being stuck in the Friend Zone isn’t just a looks thing. Many stunning women struggle in the romance department way past adolescence, constantly finding themselves as their love interest's “bud” instead of his “love.” Instead of wining and dining with you, your crush greets you with a bear hug and chats you up about the girls he’s been dating. Ahem, not you.
You take it like a champ, nodding and giving him friendly advice. Inside, you wonder, why do I permanently live on the corner of Friend Zone Lane and Never Get the Guy? Here's why.
6 Reasons You're Always Stuck in the Friend Zone
You show a lack of romantic interest
Guys take their cues from us. If he doesn’t think you’re interested, he’s going to treat you like a friend. This is especially the case if you speak to him about other men. He will take it as a hint that he’s not the guy for you and will fill the role of your BFF — not your BF. So if a guy catches your eye, act accordingly!
A lack of confidence
A lack of confidence will hinder you from flirting with your love interest and showing romantic interest. You may even settle with playing the friend role just to be close to him. Don’t hide your feelings. Stop fearing rejection. And remember: a man loves a confident woman who says what she wants.
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No game
Maybe you’re a hot tamale and you know it. You feel good about yourself all day, every day. No self-esteem issues to note! So, what gives? Why do you spend Saturday nights watching your love interest hit on other women or listen to him brag about his conquests? Because your game is whack! As in, you probably don’t know how to flirt or hit on men, so he has no clue that you like him.
Flirting is a skill. When single and hoping to date you can’t just expect a guy to flirt with you and not flirt back. The art of flirting is like a ping-pong match. When he hits you better strike back and score. Read some articles on the art of seduction (paid link) or watch a video on YouTube. And practice!
Too much time in the Friend Zone
You meet a guy and you’re instantly attracted to him, but you don’t have the balls to say so or show you’re interested. Eventually, he becomes your go-to guy friend. You’ve been friends for months, maybe even years. Although you still long for him romantically, he just sees you as a friend. That’s because too much time has passed.
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Men are visual creatures. When it comes to romance, sex, and dating they’re all about the conquest and the instant gratification. If you’ve been friends for a long time, your window may be closed shut.
One of the guys
You go with him to Hooters and nudge him while saying, “Check out her rack.” Yup, you’re just like one of the guys. You can probably even outdrink him — and often do.
The thing is men are usually more romantically and sexually attracted to feminine women, or at least women who are balanced between their masculine and feminine energy. I don’t mean you should wear a dress or makeup to get the guy. You just shouldn’t punch him on the shoulder, thumb wrestle him, or act like one of his frat boys, if you want to fraternize with him in the bedroom.
Not enough mystery
What’s familiar is comfortable. And to most men “comfortable” reminds them of an old married couple. Men like excitement. They like the chase. If he knows your life story in the span of a month, you’ve said too much too soon. If you bend over backward for him at every turn, you’re doing too much. If you put him first and yourself last, you’re not valuing yourself enough. Soon, the mystery will be gone, and so will he. And you’ll be stuck on the corner of Friend Zone Lane and Never Get the Guy…again.
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